How to Wake Up in Your Dreams + Overcoming FOMO | Sunday Status

Happy Sunday!

Another busy week—and a long night! My last pregnant goat, Iris, finally had her kids. Or should I say kid. At around midnight, she delivered a massive buckling that clearly didn’t want to come out! Looking at his size, I’m still not sure how he fit, but I am so grateful that both mom and baby are doing well this morning.

I am currently evolving both my YouTube channel and Patreon to serve you all better. You may have seen yesterday’s update about the new outdoor space. This has been an idea for quite some time, but it’s getting serious now. I’ll be using this space regularly for my yoga and rebranded Somatic Sensuality classes. The entire space, including the platform, will be a continuing project—starting with the deck, a privacy screen from the road, and the beginnings of a garden. I tried to make my small indoor studio work, but it was just too cramped. This move gives me the perfect environment to embrace change and stay motivated.

In the future, this outdoor space will even allow students to come to me directly, thanks to its own driveway! Dream big, right?

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Here is the plan for the coming week:

• YouTube: A special class designed with runners and hikers in mind. Runners Rehab—a gentle way to stretch, release, and heal from the physical stress of the trail.

• Patreon: The lineup includes a BTS adventure and a corresponding yoga class. I’m stoked to be getting back out there!

• The Esoteric Tier: After last week’s deep dive into the Suit of Swords, we are moving into the Suit of Pentacles.

• Dreamwork & Somatics: We are exploring Lucid Dreaming today—defining what it is and how to train yourself to become aware within the dream state. Later this week, we’ll dive deeper into how different cultures utilize lucid dreaming. There will also be a new Somatic Sensuality class to help ground this work.

Questions for the Week

1) What would you recommend for beginners who want to have lucid dreams? Do you have your own techniques?

Keeping a dream journal is crucial; it builds the habit of dream recall. I also recommend performing "reality checks" multiple times a day. Ask yourself, "Am I dreaming?" especially when something strange happens. Many people "wake up" in a dream because they notice the incongruent nature of that world.

For me, a recurring theme used to be my teeth falling out; now, I dream a lot about moving. I use that theme as a trigger to "wake up." Try this: look at your hands and then cover your nose to try to breathe. If you can’t breathe and your hands look normal, you’re awake. If you can breathe and your hands look weird (extra fingers, blurry, etc.), you’re dreaming. Prepping yourself to check in waking life builds the muscle memory to check while you're asleep.

2) How can someone overcome FOMO when they see others hitting milestones while they are in a "rebuilding" season? What if you feel stuck in your chapter forever?

Stop looking at social media if you can’t stop feeling jealous. Figure out what is truly important to you and go after it with such vigor that you don’t have time to notice what others are doing. If you aren't satisfied with your life, build bigger dreams—dreams so worthy of your time that you don't care about anyone else's highlight reel.

It sounds harsh, but feeling "left behind" is often a result of self-inflicted beliefs and an unwillingness to step into uncertainty. Nothing worth doing is easy. If you are rebuilding, ensure you are growing in alignment with where you actually want to go, not a prescribed path that will leave you empty. Only you can up the ante.

3) Why does friendship become complicated once sexual attraction enters the picture? Do women lose interest if they feel the friendship was just a doorway to sex?

I’m far from an expert on making every relationship work, but here is my perspective: If I like someone and they only want "friends with benefits," it feels like I’m being used—even if they like my personality. No, thank you. Once sex enters the equation, you either commit and have all of me, or none.

Whenever I’ve settled for less than what I needed in the past, it led to dark times. Some people can make casual situations work, and that’s amazing for them, but I usually end up feeling more for the person than they do for me. From a feminine perspective, it isn’t always easy to disentangle emotions after physical intimacy. Love all of me, commit, or there’s the door.